BLOGTHINGS: Mindful Sharing

Wednesday, November 21, 2018


Another Blog Things post! Ideas just keep coming, but there are times when I get too lazy to share.


One of the things I learned while keeping this blog is to share more of life and to do it fearlessly. The art of self-promotion, as they say.

I created a Facebook page for my blog earlier this year. I've been blogging for the longest time, although I never really shared it with much people. Online friends, for the most part, the ones I've made through Livejournal. But other than that, no one knows. I don't know why, though. Maybe it's because it's too personal. Writing after all, is my coping mechanism for my highest of highs and lowest of lows.

Sometimes though, I don't know when personal gets too personal. It's a struggle, how can I be personal without giving everything about myself away and without painting a false persona? But after some writing, and re-writing, then writing some more, it can be that it's alright to share up to an extent that is comfortable to us. The world is not obliged to know everything about you, nor are we obliged to share, and to post everyday.

Then there's also Instagram! I've a personal and blog one. I decided to separate these two things, simply because I've already shared so much photos of my friends and family in my personal one. For my blog account though, I'm much more free in posting with hashtags and tagging relevant accounts to each photo I post.

Even though I've created these pages for my blog, I sometimes still tend to be lazy to share. I'm not sure if it's laziness or overthinking, but maybe a mix. I have to admit that maybe there are still some things I'm not completely confident about sharing to people who know me personally, but I'm slowly overcoming it. It's not that I'm hiding something, but the idea of sharing online is still a bit foreign to me, so I consider this is a challenge.

Sometimes I think of the root cause of this. Most times I feel like it's a bother, and then most times I notice my lack of updates and feel sort of bad about it. Sorry, I'm not keeping up with everyone and not letting everyone know about where I am, what I'm doing, who I'm with, etc. etc. There's no in-between, I guess.

To be honest, it can be quite exhausting. Most of the time what people share anyway are filtered snippets of carefully curated moments of their lives. It's rare to find people talking about how bad their day went, or how they've got new pimples on their faces. Who does that? People want to be admired, to be looked up to, to be validated, and to feel good in general, after all.

But in the end, it boils down to a realization that: I've been awfully conscious. Not of what people post online, but mostly about what I share. It makes me feel bare. Many questions form inside my head, until before long I decide that it's not worth sharing, then move on with my life. I'm fighting it now, though, to just not care about it. Why not just share, then move on with life. I figured that's a much better perspective.

I think it helps to know our intention in sharing. If it's an idea that excites you, if it's value-adding for others, then by all means share. Throughout the years I've seen social media grow and it can be toxic, but it all depends on your intention and knowing that life goes beyond the screen. ;-)

Balance is still the key. I found that it helps to post when my heightened emotions have gone down. I share travel photos a few days after it's happened. This is largely why I didn't share much during the first 5 days of our 2 week England trip. Share because it's your joy to share it, because it holds meaning for you, and know that life goes on just like that. This applies to this blog, or any of my social media accounts.

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Thank you for reading, dear reader.

Photo by Jake Campbell from Unsplash


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2 comments

  1. I am the same with my blog. I share my posts with anyone except for real life people (they tend to be super judgmental??!). Oh man, that line between what's too personal can be hard to cross. Omitting certain information is totally okay, you don't have the obligation to spill the entire beans about your life. I totally agree with you about sharing value-add ideas! Love this post - thanks for sharing your thoughts!

    Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

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    1. Ohh man, I know how you feel about irl ppl being judgmental..... but it's something I'm fighting anyway; my mindset with sharing on social media is more of an fyi hi i have a blog and i love to write, read it or not I'm ok. Haha!

      Thanks Nancy, I'm glad you enjoyed reading this post :) I'm quite late with replying to comments as well, forgive me!

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