How we are in real life

Sunday, March 7, 2021

 

Flowers in summer time, blue skies, and blooming nature

Hello dear reader, I hope you've been well and that you've been taking good care of yourself. I'm just glad we have the weekend to rest, and that I'm able to do more of the things I love doing, such as writing and reflecting on how the days have been.

This weekend so far has been filled with lots of food and naps. I admit the work week has been a busy yet highly productive one, and so I figured I'd reward myself with those two really great things. ; - ) 


The first week of March has let me experience a full range of emotions. It could be a good thing, especially in a time when it's easy to feel numb from the lack of outside world exposure, yet could be a bad thing if these emotions are left unchecked. I'd like to think of it as an indicator that I'm still human and capable of being frustrated, annoyed, anxious..

These are all unpleasant emotions, I know, but they are real. This is how it is in real life, yet we don't really talk about it or maybe it's hard to do so at this moment, because there's not really anyone we can meet up with to grab a cup of coffee and have a good long conversation? (I'm still pretty much part of the stay home, stay safe party)

There's mostly just the online world right now, or rather our online lives. There is the online self we project for a couple of minutes, yet there is a full real life self we deal with for the rest of the day. We don't really mention the times we've cried, the times we've sighed out of frustration, or the times we've felt helpless. Not that we ought to share our whole lives online, but perhaps, if we choose to, a small circle is more than enough. 

All these thoughts have surfaced in my head when a colleague popped this question last week: how do you wake up feeling good about the day? It struck me a lot, because I don't always feel good. Or there's bound to be something that was not so good that happened in the day, but there's not a lot of conversation revolving around it because I could imagine that if we could, we'd simply choose to carry on. 

It was such a raw and personal query. Refreshing, if you ask me. I wondered where it was all coming from, and if it was coming from a deep dark well of turbulent thoughts and weariness. 

That one brave attempt to ask the question led to a deeper conversation. Others in the meeting started opening up about their own experiences of dealing with their own unpleasant emotions, how they cope, and the space began to feel safe in that moment. It can be really empowering, to know we're not alone in what we go through, and that we can get real with both our good and bad experiences. In a way, there is an exchange of perspectives, and it can really bring us out of the dark. 

In the midst of the sharing, I felt empathy radiating from the screen. It can be surprising how people are willing to listen and how they can be so candid in sharing their encouragements towards others. We'll never really know unless we open the conversation on how we're doing in real life versus what we consciously show wherever we find ourselves online (work, social media, etc).


Trees' shadows playing on the grass

Heavenly Father, give us this day our daily bread

Give us today patience, understanding, sound judgment, empathy, words to encourage others.. 

Another thought is that, I pray that I'm able to encourage others more, and may it be a genuine prompting. I don't think I'm able to embody all these things mentioned above if I were not to ask and receive all these from the Lord daily. Because it's difficult, and I face different work situations everyday despite still working from home, and I may not always have a good word to share with others nor can I always project myself happily. Yet I'd definitely welcome every opportunity to listen and to usher others into my headspace.

Tomorrow is another day to keep trying, whether it be in gaining a new perspective or doing things differently. In all these things, may it always be for the better. 

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I woke up later than usual this weekend, but I still went out for my walk. Photos used here are from this morning! Lots of blue skies and flowers lately, and although I'm not the biggest fan of the oncoming sweltering heat, I'm still looking forward to summer time. 

I hope you are having a slow and relaxing Sunday. : - ) 

10 comments

  1. If I were to be asked that question (how do you wake up feeling good about the day?), my response would be I don't. I don't always wake up feeling great. There are time's that I do wake up with a good mood, but there are also times when I wake up and I just view the world a little on the low side. Every day is different and well, as you have said, we still carry on about our day and do our best to get through with it. :)

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    1. Viewing the world a little on the low side is perfectly fine, and sometimes it takes time for us to arrive at the resolve to carry on. I think we all deserve huge pats on the back for going through these kinds of days!

      Hope you are enjoying the weekend, Renee! <3

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  2. I can definitely relate to a lot of the things you talked about in this post. As someone who prefers to have long conversations in person, the lack of social interaction due to the pandemic has definitely left me feeling a little frustrated!

    It's great that your colleague had the initiative to open up the conversation :) I always find it refreshing when people at work reveal a different side of themselves, whether it's good or bad. Especially during this time, I think it's important to keep things real and not feel the need to act so positive all the time.

    Hope you've been well lately, Anna!

    Mani

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    1. I definitely felt the frustration from March last year! Calls and very infrequent, socially distanced 1on1 meet ups have been such small joys for me.

      I think it was during this pandemic that we were able to develop a better working relationship. Surprising as it may seem, we all became a bit more human and real that we don't always feel positive during this time I'd like to think.

      Thank you so much for your time on here, Mani! I've honestly been a ball of emotions lately, but definitely doing my best to keep well. :") take care always and stay safe!

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  3. "There is the online self we project for a couple of minutes, yet there is a full real life self we deal with for the rest of the day. We don't really mention the times we've cried, the times we've sighed out of frustration, or the times we've felt helpless. Not that we ought to share our whole lives online, but perhaps, if we choose to, a small circle is more than enough."

    this. this entire paragraph alone. I love and appreciate that you mentioned the honesty here. after I published my latest post, reading this on someone else's blog really does strengthen my feelings (the one I've written on that post). I feel like instead of only projecting a curated version of me online, I'd like to be given a space or a chance where I can also talk about things that make me angry or sad, without others saying I should stop because I'm raining on their parade.

    "...how do you wake up feeling good about the day? It struck me a lot, because I don't always feel good. Or there's bound to be something that was not so good that happened in the day, but there's not a lot of conversation revolving around it because I could imagine that if we could, we'd simply choose to carry on."

    I relate to this a lot! I simply don't wake up with a positive mood either. other than the fact that I'm more of a realist/pessimist hybrid, I just am not a morning person. I can have 12 hours of sleep and still, I'd be somewhat cranky. my boyfriend thinks I'm akin to a cat so maybe he's right? LOL

    anyway, it's so refreshing to read about your relationship with your colleagues! I don't have that relationship with mine. in my case, it's just about work. nothing else. there's no...heart-to-heart talk, LOL. not that I'm complaining, since I always don't see colleagues as, well, friends. not gonna lie, it'd be nice to be able to have that talk but I'm not sure I can handle it either. I'm such a contradiction I don't even understand it myself haha

    this post was such a refreshing read! thanks for writing it!

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    √Člise | https://intosolarium.com

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    1. This is what I admire about you, Elise, I love how candid you are with your thoughts and expressions. :) it pulls me right back to earth, and I definitely hope no one tells you stop or discourage you for being who you are.

      I'm actually quite the opposite, I love mornings!! At the same time, I love sleeping early. Even with having enough hours of sleep though, sometimes I just feel like it could be hard to get up and go through the same motions of working from home again. Haha, I'd love to be a cat.. to sleep, be cute, and be adored :"))

      We've had more life conversations ever since pandemic happened. I sometimes think if the pandemic didn't hit, it would all be just about work as usual, as always. I guess this is one of the few good things this season has brought us.

      AND thank you for your time in reading :") I truly appreciate you being here. Have a lovely weekend.

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  4. I'm part of the 'stay safe club' as well. I only go out when I need groceries or have an appointment. I'm thankful that I can see my family members regularly since I live with them but I do miss coffee shop hangouts with friends and endless wanderings around the shops. It's been difficult but I do see the light at the end of the tunnel because of people getting vaccines. I'm still a long line away from getting the vaccine but I don't mind letting those who need it more get it first. My time will come eventually.

    In regards to your colleague's question "how do you wake up feeling good about the day?" I just follow my routine. I try not to think too much about being alone most of the day because I know if I think too much, I'll probably cry and I don't want that (I save my cries for the shower. haha). Staying on routine makes things feel sort of "normal" in a far-from-normal situation.

    Sending you warm socially distant air hugs and positive energy. ♥

    www.mooeyandfriends.com

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    1. Routine is indeed very important! Thank you for sharing with me how you cope with the everyday. Even after a year of working from home, sometimes I feel like I've gotten used to things already, yet there are also days when I just feel like I'm all over the place.. oh the ups and downs of life.

      Thank you for your air hugs and positive energy, I really appreciate it and I'm giving them to you as well! ♥♥♥

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  5. I love this, and your reflections.

    best.
    k.

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    1. Thank you for your kind words, and spending time to read, Keira! I hope all is well :")

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